完滿的人生 The Complete Life (you're always the oldest you've ever been)
「死亡一天比一天更接近」我認為這種看法是錯誤的,因為這就好像將我們的壽命看做一種配給額度。
多數人都把壽命看成一種會隨時間、年紀,漸漸「用光」的物質。日子一天天過去,這種壽命物質用掉越多,就越接近死亡。有趣的是,人們總抱有「平均應活壽命」的概念,也就是說很多人都不知為何就認為自己有權活到一定的歲數,若沒達到自己預設的歲數,他們就認為人生不夠完整。
比方說,大多數人會覺得活到九十歲的人比只活到三十歲的人,生命更完整,由於他把壽命的桶子注滿了。而後者沒用到應有的壽命配額,因此生命較不「完整」。
但是我們應該先搞清楚:根本就沒有生命配額這回事。我們不是等著被處決的死囚,連行刑的時辰都訂好了。
當然人們都會活到某個特定的歲數,但既然你的死期未知,那麼「死亡日漸逼近」的想法就不合邏輯。你的死期總處在流動的狀態。你所做的、生命中發生的每件事,都可能讓你更接近或更遠離死亡。
要是你接下來這個星期每天都不戴套搞妓女,每天吃麥當勞,那你可能就會將死期拉近。相較之下,每天待在家裡,吃青菜蘿蔔可能還較長壽。同樣地,要是你正在發高燒,那麼死亡可能比較接近,康復後就比較遠了。
連明天要被處決的死囚,都可能今天突然意外死去。所以人在經驗上,沒有所謂的大限之日,而他也不會覺得自己正漸漸走向虛無。
死亡是一種未知元素,等著我們去攫取,我們對生命所做的一切,只是繞著死期兜圈子,將那日期挪來挪去,有時拉近有時推遠。
既然你的死期並未刻在石碑上,我們其實並不知道自己算不算老;我們的生命算不算完整。
只有當死期確定了,作為參考基準點,我們才能說自己到底活得多老。而我說過,大多數人都以預期壽命作參考基準。 (當今預期壽命是七十歲,所以如果能活到七十,就算是壽終正寢,活得完滿)。
但這種宣稱的預期壽命其實多半只是一種假象,因為所有生物真正能拿來作參考值的,就是他至今為止全部的壽命。
因此,我們每個人的生命在某個當下,永遠都在最完整的狀態。因為我們永遠都活在自己所經驗到最長壽的一刻。因此其實沒有所謂「不完整的」生命。所有的生命永遠都處在最完滿的一刻。
I think it’s a mistake to view death as being nearer than yesterday as if we are given a quota called “life”.
Most people view life as this substance that we “use up” with time as we age, and each day that passes by, we use up more of this life-stuff and move closer to death. It’s also interesting to note that people seem to always have a notion of an “entitled generalized lifespan”. Meaning that most people think they somehow have a sort of a right to live to a certain age, and that if they do not reach that self-proclaimed age, they consider their lives to be incomplete.
For instance, most people would consider somebody’s life to be more “complete” if he gets to live to be 90 than say, somebody who died at the age of 30. The person who died at 90 lived a more complete life because he filled up more of his life bucket, where the 30 year old lived a less “complete” life because he didn’t use up his expected life quotas like he should have.
But a person does NOT have a life quota to begin with. We are not like prisoners who are waiting for execution, with the date and time of death written down already.
People of course, live for a certain number of days. But since the exact date of your death is unknown, it is illogical to think that we are moving closer to death with each passing day. The date of your death is always in constant state of flux. Everything that you do, and everything that happens to you through out life pushes or pulls that date further or closer from you.
If you spend the next week fucking prostitutes without a condom and eating McDonald’s every meal, then you are probably pulling that date closer to you, than say, if you spend that week sitting at home, eating vegetables and carrots. Likewise, if you have a high fever now, death is probably closer to you now than after your recovery.
Even a condemned prisoner who is expected to be executed tomorrow can suddenly die of an accidental death today. So, a person does not experience finite as such, and he does not experience himself as progressing towards nothingness.
Death is an unknown element that is always up for grasps, and what we do with our lives are merely means to play around with that date, tossing it around, making it closer or further away from you.
Since the date of our death isn’t set in stone, we really don’t have any idea how old we are, or how complete our lives are.
It is only with a fixed date of death as a frame of reference that we determine how “old” we really are. And like I mentioned before, that time of reference is usually the life expectancy of a given time period (it’s 70 now, so if we live to be 70 you died of old age, and had a complete life).
But such a proclaimed life expectancy is more or less an illusion because each organism has only, as its time of reference, ALL THE TIME IT HAS EVER KNOWN.
So everybody’s life is ALWAYS the fullest at a given moment because we are always, at THIS particular moment, the oldest we’ve ever been. So there really isn’t such a thing as an “incomplete” life, since every life is always at its fullest.